As you’re probably all too aware by now, Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban have called it quits after 19 years of marriage. And of course, anonymous sources are coming out of the woodwork with all the tea. The latest update: Nicole and Keith’s strained marriage “really hasn’t been a secret” to their inner circle, as the two have “been living separately for a while now.”

“Their lives were moving in different directions, and once he quietly set up his own place, it felt like the writing was on the wall,” a source told People, adding, “People close to Keith felt like the split was kind of inevitable.”

While the breakup came to a surprise to fans, several sources have claimed that Nicole and Keith had been living apart since the start of the summer—and apparently, the breakup was 100 percent initiated by Keith. As a separate insider for People said of Nicole, “She didn’t want this. She has been fighting to save the marriage.”

So…what led to the separation? Per the Daily Mail, too much time apart put strain on the couple’s marriage. “Keith never sees Nicole, either she is filming or he is on tour,” a source said. “There was a lot of love between the two and they might not divorce. They been together for decades so there is a world which they can reconcile, but the way their pairing is now, they are not a couple.”

The source went on to claim that Nicole was “blindsided” by the whole thing. “The intimacy isn’t there,” they continued. “They are just going through the motions [of being married]. If this separation gets them back together, that would be amazing, but Keith had to call her out that he isn’t happy.”

Hoping for the best for these two!!